I was listening to the radio this morning and the subject of women and their work came on. The DJ was sarcastically talking how he wants to 50s back so he can work, and he can come home and his wife will have his martini and newspaper ready, he will put his slippers on, relax after a hard days work while his wife finished making dinner, in a clean house that always has the laundry done. And as you can imagine, these sarcastic remarks did not bode well with many of his female listeners and the calls start pouring in!
“We can’t afford a single income household and I am just too tired to be that 50s wife”
“The cost of living was cheaper in the 50s so the man could work and the woman could stay home”
“I am a stay at home mom and I have 3 kids. When my husband comes home I tell him he needs to take over because watching 3 kids is a tougher job that whatever he had to do”.
There was one caller that took the cake and what prompted me to write this was her comment:
“I don’t know why all these women are complaining about this situation. I am a mom of 5 boys, I work a full-time job, my husband works a full-time job, and when I come home, I clean the house, cook dinner and keep my family moving. If you truly love your kids and truly love your husband and truly love your family, then there is no other choice than to just do it”.
AMEN TO THAT!!
Look – I understand that life is hard. It’s a grind. But making excuses doesn’t do anything for you. You want to succeed? You need to completely get rid of your excuses and just get what you need to get done accomplished. If you don’t want to do something, don’t do it, and if you want to do something bad enough you will find a way. But to complain because you are too tired, or your job is too hard or the economy is different does NOT solve any issues you are having.
“We can’t afford a single income household and I am just too tired to be that 50s wife” – how about getting a part-time job, or seeing if your husband can work from home a few days, or see if you can get a pay raise and your husband stay home, or just quit your whining about being tired, suck it up and just do it.
“The cost of living was cheaper in the 50s so the man could work and the woman could stay home” – The pay was also lower relative to todays time, so keep everything in perspective, cut some of your spending, get a cheaper car, don’t go out to eat as often and find a way to make sure this could work.
“I am a stay at home mom and I have 3 kids. When my husband comes home I tell him he needs to take over because watching 3 kids is a tougher job that whatever he had to do”. This one makes me the most frustrated! Just suck it up and do the damn job that needs to be done!
Well – clearly Zach – you don’t see things very clear. None of those things are possible and you are just living in an unrealistic dream
No – every single one of these things IS possible. But they take work. Hard work. Work that makes you feel uncomfortable and may not look good in the eyes of your peers. But don’t tell me it isn’t possible.
I know life is hard. It comes at you fast and is unforgiving. But making excuses won’t get anything done. It just leads to a fake belief that you are trying, when in fact, you are not.
Put up or shut up
When it comes down to it, it is really time to put up or just shut up. Just get done what you need to get done. And if you don’t get it done, either adjust something to get it done, or stop talking about it. No one wants to hear your complaining or your excuses, but everyone could benefit from seeing your results.
To Your Success –