I am very passionate about the subjects that I discuss on this site – which is mainly about living the best life possible. This passion isn’t just on this site, it bleeds out to my every day life as well. When I talked about the subject of being the best version of yourself, some mock me, some roll their eyes, but some actually care and listen to what I have to say.
My take on living the best life is simple – know what you want and go get what you want.
But I also understand that if life was truly that easy, we all would live happier lives. That isn’t the case in today’s world. People are unhappy. People are overweight. People work dead end jobs. People don’t make enough. People get divorced. People don’t work. People wait for someone else to take care of them. And the problem is getting worse and worse everyday.
In order for people to start changing for the better, they have to change. Change is hard. Countless books have been written on change, how to make it, how to keep it, and how to change behaviors that last forever. We, as humans, are creatures of habit and laziness. We don’t want to change and we don’t want to work harder than we need to. Even the best motivational speakers in the world fall into these categories simply by being human. The difference between those who are successful and those who are not have to do with changing behaviors and creating NEW habits. And that is the hard part…
As conversations goes with most people, the conversation of change and how to do it usually comes up. There is no real easy answer or easy way to do it – again, if there was, we all would change.
But there is one good place to start when trying to change:
Make A Different Decision
You are where you are at in life because of the decisions you have made. Chances are, you have been making the same decisions over and over again. This is the safe way to go through life. If you make the same decision, you get the same result. If you get the same result, chances are you won’t have to be uncomfortable in any situation or try something new.
Really think about this in your own life for a second, because I know people are reading that last line shaking their head going “that isn’t me – I don’t do that”.
Are you overweight and unhealthy? You have been making the same decision to eat poor food and no get physical activity.
Are you in a weak financial situation? You have been making the same decision on your finances so you don’t go farther back in the hole, but you also don’t move farther forward.
Are you in a miserable relationship? You have been making the same decision that it will just get better over time, or that it is just too much work to do something else.
Are you unhappy at your job? You have been making the same decision to bear through the unhappiness making you even more unhappy.
And these type of routine, typical decisions don’t have to be in big areas of your life. It can be on smaller scales as well:
Are you procrastinating on your homework assignment? You have been making the same decision that there are more important areas in your life to focus on.
This becomes second nature to us. We just start making decisions because we have made that decision in the past. We fall in routine because it keeps balance in our life. It keeps us comfortable.
So when someone comes up to me and asks me how do they change, I simply say make a different decision. Intentionally throw your life out of whack and into a different direction. And you don’t have to start with the biggest decision of your life. Start with the procrastination on the homework. Make the decision that the homework is the most important thing in your life at this very moment, sit down and do it.
Even if the decisions that you start making have no large impact in your life, make a different decision that you normally make. This will get the gears turning and get you started on the path to digging yourself out of the typical life that you have onto something great. It will start teaching you that making different decisions is a good thing to do.
Yes, it makes you uncomfortable because you aren’t sure of the result of the decision like you are sure of the same decision you make over and over again.
Yes, the different decision may in fact be the wrong decision at the time, but this will help you develop how to overcome wrong decisions in your life (they happy to everyone).
But when you make a different decision you get a different result. And if you want to live a great life, different results is what we need to strive for.
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
We are all the same. We all have the same core traits as human beings. The difference in us is the ability for some to make different decisions, go a different path, and accept what comes down from that decisions, rather than doing the same thing over and over expecting something to change. YOU have to change if you want something different. And the easiest way to change? Make a different decision.